It’s National Recovery Month here in Palau and there’s a lot to be said about the recovery process. Whether people are dealing with drinking problems or substance abuse, deciding to quit and staying clean/sober is an admirable and impressive feat. The Community Guidance Center and Palau Mental Health Planning and Advisory Council are doing excellent work in promoting recovery, advocacy and a host of other relevant issues– and I’m honored that I can help them in promoting pertinent issues as well.
That said, congratulations and thank you to everyone who has committed themselves to a life free of drugs and alcohol. It can be incredibly difficult to stay clean and sober, more so in Palau, but what you have chosen to do makes a difference in the lives of many in addition to yourselves.
There’s lots of reasons why I don’t particularly enjoy going out here, but one of them is definitely my disdain for dealing with people who are drunk and/or high.
I think it’s safe to say that we all know how people make a lot of foolish (stupid, even) choices when alcohol and drugs. People are likely discussing it more now than they had been– and it’s a start. In the interest of keeping things light-hearted, I’ve chosen to write about a more basic (but all-too common) problem.
Under the influence, men and women alike have a tendency to overestimate their attractiveness. This is the conclusion I’ve come to in Palau. What they perceive to be smooth talk and swagger is, more often than not, mumbled jibberish and stumbling… I suppose “ouretakel e mo dame” comes from this familiar scenario.
I think we’ve all encountered THAT man or woman, with their stench of drunkenness following them like their own little cloud. They walk up (if you can call someone el “meruul a S” walking) just a little too confidently, a little to proudly. And then they open their mouth to speak…
What comes out, if you can understand it, is generally something offense enough that I can’t actually publish it in the newspaper. In the mind of the speaker, what they’ve said it the epitome– the PEAK– of sexiness. What they’ve said is so amazingly attractive that you can’t possibly resist them.
Based on experience and anecdotal evidence, none of this is attractive. It’s not cute, it’s not sexy, it’s not attractive– not in the slightest.
But that’s just my own (occasionally obnoxious) opinion. I suppose there are some people who might– indeed– find something that sort of thing intriguing. I don’t get paid to judge, just to observe and make commentary.
So here I am, the Native Ex-Pat come home, and I’m grateful for a lot of things. I’m grateful for my own sobriety and that of those closest to me, I’m grateful for like-minded people who want to change the world and for the amazing people in my day-to-day life who inspire me to always do better.